Four tips to better your relationship. - Valery Molone

Four Tips to Better your relationship- Having a healthy relationship with your partner is about more than attraction, it requires respect, trust and open communication. The secret to getting what you want is to know what that is. With everything going on in the life of the average couple, it’s easy to forget the small gestures that keep a relationship ticking. What most couples don’t realize, though, is that it doesn’t take much to help your partner feel more valued every day. Stringing together these little things is an ongoing way to make change in your relationship. You will gain a clear and deep understanding of what truly motivates your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to build toward you own personal breakthrough. Your dream relationship is closer than you think and you’ll learn exactly how to bring this kind of love into your life.
 
Get Respect:
There many people you may want to sleep with, but how many do you actually picture yourself coming home to when you’ve had a shitty day and don’t’ want to face tomorrow? The way you feel about yourself is the way that others will feel about you. To have a high value mindset and come across, as attractive and highly desired relationship it is important to keep in mind, in the beginning you never thought of power and respect because it felt equally distributed. As time went on you noticed things sniffing and you felt like your partner somehow had more power. It is difficult to feel love toward someone we don’t respect. How can we generate a steady flow of truth telling between the people and ourselves we love the most? Love, respect and trust all go together and if one of the links is missing the whole thing falls apart. The things about trust is that it needs to be earned, to know this feeling of content one must adopt a few conducts, patterns to build a better relationship. One of the important keys is to have an open communication. It allows the relationship to be or engaged and understanding what matters to each partner. Creating an open communication lead to satisfaction, team building; increase commitment, loyalty and mutual respect.
 
Be into the details:
Part of being in a committed relationship means you shouldn’t be completely independent anymore. Instead, it’s important to be able to ask for help and tell your partner what you need. When your partner meets those needs, it helps you grow closer as a couple. Remember that what you consider to love behavior may not feel like love to your spouse. For example, perhaps a husband thinks he’s showing love by doing the laundry each night, but instead of feeling loved, his wife may be wondering why he’s not choosing to spend time with her. Find out what makes your spouse feel loved so you can show your love in a way that it will be well received. Maintain Privacy but Avoid Secrecy everyone needs some level of privacy, however, secrecy should have no place in a relationship. Your partner doesn’t need an all-access pass to everything you own, but if you’re hiding specific things because you know your partner would be angry, it can mean trouble for the relationship. Healthy relationships shouldn’t include harmful secrets.
 
Never give up:
It’s a pretty common consensus that love takes work, yet the idea that there is one perfect person out there just waiting to be found. Even the expression falling in love makes it sound like love is out of our hands. Achieving long lasting love isn’t usually easy, even when we meet the right person. So how do we know when to give up on a relationship, and when to fight for it? First, we should accept the reality that while relationships have the potential to be fairly sweet and simple, they are often terribly complicated. When any two people with separate minds, pasts, and sets of baggage come together, the future will not likely be one smooth sail into the sunset. Falling in love can be the most joyful experience one’s life, yet we tend to underestimate the level of fear, anxiety, sadness and even anger it can stir up. In a backward twist, these fears tend to grow even stronger the closer we get to someone else. Without knowing it, we all have defenses in us, based on hurtful past experiences that can now operate to push love away.

So, when it comes to deciding whether to call it quits on a relationship we once valued, the first things we have to ask ourselves are: How much are my own defenses at work? When approaching the actions, you should take before choosing to break up, it’s important to adopt the attitude that the only person you can truly change is yourself. You control 100 percent of your half of the dynamic. You’re not a victim in a relationship; ultimately, you can choose to move on. Playing the blame game will leave you feeling powerless and going in circles. Even if you eventually decide that the relationship is not worth keeping, as long as you’re in it, you can make a practice of being the best person you can be. You can grow your ability to love, to be open, and to be vulnerable – skills that will greatly benefit you in life and future relationships.
 
How to keep your relationship exciting and fresh:
You’ve have reached a point where all the excitement has worn off a little and it’s how you respond to that change that can set the tone for the rest of your future as a couple. Don’t stop doing the little things, always give a kiss goodnight. Never stop hugging and saying I love you when you leave them to go somewhere. Keep the little things in your normal routine and really show them you mean it. Sometimes in a long-term relationship, you start to say things because it’s just what you do. But remember why you are kissing them goodnight. Remember why you hug them and say I love you. Don’t take those things for granted. Create a date night with a twist. After you’ve been together for a while you find yourself always going to dinner and to see a movie.

The same old thing being in a long-term relationship takes some effort if you want to keep things fun and interesting. And thinking of new, interesting date ideas is where you should put your energy. Go hiking, take some aggression out on each other in a lively game of paintball. Puzzles. Get a thousand pieces, some wine and you’ll be amazed at how much you end up talking about while doing a puzzle. It helps your mind relax. Take a drive through each one of your hometowns and tell the stories of your childhood. Date nights don’t have to be the same. Mix it up a little. Sex, sex…and more sex with the same person for a long time can get boring but it doesn’t have to be. Switch it up some. I’m not talking about swinging and orgies. Make it fun but legal. Be daring and loud. Do it in crazy places. Drive up to a new construction neighborhood at night, pull into a vacant driveway and do it in the car! Most of all make the time for it. It can be easy to overlook sex but next thing you know, a week or two goes by and you’re feeling insecure. You’ll end up saying, “We should do that more often!’

Leave a comment