When you’re finally with someone who treats you the way you deserve, that person never leaves you guessing about something they said, or where you stand, or what’s coming next in the relationship. It’s not a game, and they’re not the gatekeepers of a fate you’re waiting to uncover the truth about. They’re certain about their intentions, and when they’re not, they’re honest with you about that too. Mixed signals usually just indicate you’ve been placed comfortably on a back-burner cease to exist in this kind of relationship, and it’s about time. Though it’s really impossible to say for certain what the one, true, correct way for everyone to be treated in relationships, there is a few guidelines of common decency you can follow if and when you ever find yourself questioning whether or not your relationship situation is normal, healthy, or even tolerable.
Women should know this:
Great men want and need straightforward, courageous communication without anger or criticism. One way to attract a great man and build a satisfying relationship is to learn how to communicate your truth and needs effectively. Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partner, but they want their partner to have a separate identity. Men want a woman to be active and independent, to have her own friends and interests.
On the other hand, men treasure time spent with a loving partner.
Here is great news for those women who are resigned to the myth that all men cheat: infidelity and “a roaming eye” are as distasteful to men as they are to women. Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient. Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate. Men would rather have more praise, more acknowledgment of what they do right, more acknowledgment that they are great guys who are loved and appreciated. Women think men do not need them, do not value their opinion, their support, and their praise. Women also think men do not care about many things important to women, which is why they criticize. Criticism is a way to verbalize resentment.
Types of men that women should stay away from:
He waits until the last moment to commit to a plan. If he cannot make a plan or commit to an event a week away, or even a month away, he will not commit to a lifetime with you. Don’t let him fool you with his bullshit: “I live in the moment, who knows what will be in an hour, a day or a week.” What will it be? He will still be spewing the same line a week from now, a month from now, and you will have gray hair.
A man who thinks: “Foreplay; What’s that”?
It is clear that a man thinks foreplay is a golf game or a steamy gift from God. There are still men who think yanking their pants to their ankles, giving a quick lick to each nipple, a grab of the crotch and a swift sword fight with the sweet vagina is mind-blowing. No!!! We should welcome a man into our bed who is connected to his masculinity. His strength and virility is united with his visceral desire to nurture his woman, keep her close, protected and fulfilled. Only accept a man who is sensuous and patient. One who takes his time tasting you. This is a man who is not impulsive; he thinks and feels equally. He will make love for a lifetime because it isn’t about his penis, it’s about you.
Men who does not have close friends:
If he does not have one or two close friends, this is a huge red flag. Are the friends he does have social acquaintances with, only carry on small talk with a beer in hand? Are they shady? You know what I mean—the ones who don’t seem to have any direction or a real job. They only call for a ‘favor,’ and the pervasive conversations they do have are of burning nostalgia for the epic parties they threw back in college. If he does have friends, pay attention to their interactions. Do they hug when they say hello and goodbye? Do they talk about meaningful subjects other than sports, girls, cars or money? Is there reciprocity in their relationship? How you do one thing is how you do everything. There are exceptions, but friends are the best indicator of how he will connect with you.
Men who talk to much but never take action:
A man can tell you all day long, text message that he loves you. He can tell you he is your biggest fan and supporter, but if you look beside you and he is not there—well, actions speak louder than words. A man who truly is your biggest fan and supports you will always be there when you need him, and you won’t even need to ask. Ask yourself this question: Does he make you cry more than he makes you laugh? If he does not bring a smile to your face, to your heart every day and every time you see him, and he is not smiling back at you—move on
As my grandmamma says, “You deserve someone who believes in you more than he/she believe in themselves!
In a relationship you should have affection!
Your partner may express this either in words, behavior, or both, but physical affection, such as hugging, kissing, back or foot rubs, or holding hands is especially important in a loving relationship. Your partner should like you as a person, and be able to demonstrate that in a way that reaches you. You should go with men that respect’s you. A good partner shows respect for you as a person, and for your boundaries. Although he or she may disagree with you, there’s no name-calling or ridicule from a respectful partner, even in the name of “just teasing.” A respectful partner knows and admires your strengths, is gracious about your weaknesses and doesn’t willfully engage in boundary violations.
