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3 ways to conquer your fears

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions. It has a very strong effect on your mind and body.

It can also take effect when you’re faced with non-dangerous events, like exams, public speaking, a new job, a date, or even a party. It’s a natural response to a threat that can be either perceived or real.

Anxiety is a word we use for some types of fear that are usually to do with the thought of a threat or something going wrong in the future, rather than right now.

Fear. It instructs us. It haunts us. It keeps us alive

Imagine if you didn’t have any fear at all. You might lead a rather reckless life, putting yourself and others in danger. But, for many of us, fear follows us like a lap dog, crawling all over us at the most inopportune moments, hindering us from moving forward, even if we wanted to.

Fear isn’t always a negative thing. There is a negative, immobilizing fear. But there is also a type of fear by which we can learn and be motivated to change. Maybe the original Greek, Hebrew, or whomever had two or three words to define fear. I don’t know. I’m no bible scholar. But I do know that some fear is OK. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” Obviously, that is a good fear, fear of not driving your car 150 miles and die, fear of being careful what you say to others not to hurt their feelings, fear of dying and making sure you have to take care of your health, fear of making sure your family is always happy, healthy, and safe and passing on your wisdom to them to make sure their in the right path in their life.

The fear that I have is more of the positive kind that motivates a person to learn and to respond. So, when the feeling of desire come’s to mind and your creativity idea looks amazing and you want to do something about it, fear will attack you and will tell you that you can’t do this. So, lets look at what fear would say to you when you thinking about making a change.


1. Have a well thought out plan.

We begin to worry and over analyze situations when we don’t have detailed and well thought out plans for our life. Set extremely clear goals with a detailed plan on how to achieve those goals. After you have a well detailed plan, take action. Acting towards meaningful goals helps to relieve stress and gives you a huge sense of enjoyment. Fear creeps in and paralyzes us when we don’t take the time to plan our lives.


2. Do one thing every day that scares you.

Living in our comfort zone is not the best way to live. Not doing the things that frighten you will increase the likelihood that your fears will become bigger – and taking over your life. It can even be something small that you choose to do, but do something daily that scares you. Step out of your comfort zone and work on becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable. When you form the habit of doing something daily that scares you, your courage grows little by little. Soon enough, the barriers that once were holding you back will vanish and your potential maximizes tremendously.


3. Focus

While awareness let’s us “see” and identify what’s happening, focus let’s us harness our energy to do something about it. The key with focus is that it requires banishing distraction. First becoming aware of it, then banishing it. But distraction feels good. It’s addictive. It releases dopamine, a chemical in our body that is released when we see something new (it’s meant to protect us by drawing our attention to a new threat). And yet getting distracted hurts awareness. And if we’re not aware then we stay stuck, in that sticky safety of the known. Focus is connected to awareness because we need to be aware of that pull of distraction. But, we need the energy and strength to say “no” to it, to remain on task, to stay focused. Good ample energy, gives us willpower, to stay focused.


You may want to fully embrace your fear once you’ve conquered it — becoming an expert at it and passing on your new experiences to others who are going through the same experiences will show that you have truly embraced it.

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