Everyone worries. Worrying can even be helpful when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. But if you’re preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. Unrelenting anxious thoughts and fears can be paralyzing. They can sap your emotional energy, send your anxiety levels soaring, and interfere with your daily life. But chronic worrying is a mental habit that can be broken! You can train your brain to stay calm and look at life from a more balanced, less fearful perspective.
“No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not, at one time or other, find himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of failure.” ~Napoleon Hill
1- Try not to judge anyone for what they do or say.
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself. Do you want others to think of you as someone who judges everybody? Ask your friends, peers what they think, and if most of them say that you often judge other people, then it’s time to stop being judgmental.
When someone disagrees with us or somehow makes our life difficult, remember that it’s typically not about us. It may be about their pain or struggle. Why not give others the benefit of the doubt? “Never underestimate the pain of a person,” Will Smith said, “because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are better at hiding it than others.”
2- Stop being a people pleaser.
People-pleasers “want everyone around them to be happy and they will do whatever is asked of them to,they put everyone else before themselves. For some, saying “yes” is a habit!
If you’re constantly seeking the approval of others or using other people’s opinions of you as a gauge for your own self-worth, the root of this could actually be people-pleasing syndrome. At the core of it, the function of chronic people pleasing is this: You aim to please because you get approval, you receive praise, you are validated, you feel included, you feel needed, you feel well liked. You put a lot of effort to please others which means you’re always walking around with fear. A people-pleaser would think to them self “if I stop pleasing others, it means I am not enough!”
3- Stop dwelling over the past.
Over centuries, our amazing brain has evolved to make decisions and respond quickly to threats for our safety and survival. When we keep thinking about the past, worry or have negative thinking, we trick our brains into believing that there is an immediate threat. As a result, our fight or flight response kicks in to deal with the event.
Our brains are pre-wired to respond to past negative thoughts and feelings more quickly. When we think positively, our brain assumes that everything is under control and no action is needed.
Here are some things you can do to get rid of your fears:
Increase the amount of exercise you do. Exercise requires some concentration, and this can take your mind off your fear and anxiety.
Learning relaxation techniques can help you with the mental and physical feelings of fear. It can help just to drop your shoulders and breathe deeply. Or imagine yourself in a relaxing place. You could also try learning things like yoga, or meditation.
Eat lots of fruit and vegetables, and try to avoid too much sugar. Resulting dips in your blood sugar can give you anxious feelings. Try to avoid drinking too much tea and coffee, as caffeine can increase anxiety levels.[
Avoid alcohol, or drink in moderation
It’s very common for people to drink when they feel nervous. Some people call alcohol ‘Dutch courage’, but the after-effects of alcohol can make you feel even more afraid or anxious.
If you are religious or spiritual, this can give you a way of feeling connected to something bigger than yourself. Faith can provide a way of coping with everyday stress, and attending church and other faith groups can connect you with a valuable support network.
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